Do you ask yourself “how can I ever get through this?” Part 1, feeling lonely. | downtown-houston

Posted on August 1, 2012


When serious illness strikes a family the stress on a family caregiver can be immense. Whether the person needing care is a child or an adult our tendency can be to focus on getting the job of caregiver done and for short and not take the time to examine the feelings and frustrations we feel. As we focus on the job at hand we can begin to feel loneliness, boredom, fear and worry and a loss of purpose. Addressing each of these is just as necessary as it is to help with tasks, treatments, and daily cares; it is an important part of any care delivery system.

In this article we will deal with loneliness. see part 2, see part 3

We are by nature social beings, we need interaction with others. Being a family caregiver can become all encompassing, it can be all we do, all we thing about and the patient can become close to the only person with whom we interact. Even when we do talk to other people conversations may tends to be about the patient so we, as caregivers, are constantly living in the caregiving role. This can lead to feelings of loneliness. We may feel sad, withdrawn and in need of comfort and reassurance. The cure is to be with other people and interact with them outside the caregiver role.

Interestingly, to a loving caregiver, the cure can seem worse than the disease as we believe the patient needs us, and they do. But, they need us to be healthy and able to care for them and to do that we need to take care of ourselves. It is not unusual for caregivers to get so sick they cannot care for the patient and some pass away before their loved ones who are the patients. Some of these caregivers lost sight of the real goal of being a family caregiver, staying healthy to provide the necessary care.

It is absolutely essential that you take a step back and examine your feelings and your needs – don’t dismiss them as unimportant. If you don’t have family or friends that can provide you some time to yourself call BrightStar. Our caregivers are trained and experienced and we only hire after thorough background checks and drug tests. We can provide care for anyone, from kids to adults and our caregivers range from Home Health Aids who can help clean the house, cook and provide transportation, to RNs who can provide skilled care.

The bottom line is: keep the real goal in sight, take care of yourself so you can take care of your loved one.

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