Do you ask yourself “how can I ever get through this?” Part 2, being bored.

Posted on August 2, 2012


The stress on a family caregiver can be immense and the tendency can be to focus on getting the job done and not take the time to examine the feelings and frustrations we feel. As we focus on the job at hand we can begin to feel loneliness, boredom, fear and worry and a loss of purpose. Addressing each of these is just as necessary as it is to help with tasks, treatments, and daily cares; it is an important part of any care delivery system.

In this article let’s deal with boredom.  See part 1, see part 3

The word boredom is not that old, its first recorded use was in Bleak House by Charles Darwin in 1852.  Do you have a lack of interest in the task at hand and do you experiencing difficulty concentrating on it?   If so, you are probably bored.   We have all experienced it because at one time or another we have all been doing something that was repetitive, did not hold our interest and did not challenge us.

The job of caregiver is absolutely essential but most if it isn’t rocket science and after awhile we all have a tendency to get bored.  It isn’t a crime, it is part of who we are; most of us want and need to be challenged.

So, how can we beat boredom?  Beating it isn’t that hard but wanting to beat it can be the hard part.   You see, boredom is one step away from apathy, where we just don’t care anymore. So, here is the trick, schedule some activities that will challenge you and keep you engaged BEFORE you get bored.  Don’t let the boredom creep up on you and catch you unaware.

Here are some ideas; you will have many more so make a list and make decisions.

Get out of the house with friends, take some time off, you need it and if you don’t believe that check out part 1 on loneliness.

Cook a great meal, something you have never made before and have people over to enjoy it.

Call your family and friends on a regular basis to keep yourself engaged with others. Don’t spend all your time talking about being a caregiver.

Make sure you have a social worker, psychologist or someone else to talk to that will be able to relate to what you are going through. Unload all the caregiver stress on them so you don’t need to do it with your friends.

Spend time on hobbies.

Exercise, schedule this and keep as close to the schedule as possible. We all know how easy it is to stop exercising once we start missing our sessions. Find friends to exercise with and have them hold you accountable.

Do puzzles; find something for your mind to do.

The bottom line is, take care of yourself so you can take care of your loved one.

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